You’re confident, ambitious and always there for others. People think that you lead a great life but it doesn’t always feel that way to you.
You got through childhood and teenage years and have lots to be grateful for but despite all of your effort and achievement in life, something doesn’t feel quite right. An anxious, nagging feeling sits in your mind and body and makes you uncomfortable in your own skin. Perhaps you’re lacking confidence or have a sense that you’re not ‘good enough’. A good enough parent, partner or human being.
You’ve ignored it and carried on but you have many questions. It’s frustrating and exhausting but something has prompted you to find answers. You want to be more relaxed within yourself and feel good enough.
Self-esteem and confidence can suffer due to a difficult childhood and/or life events and simply put, life can seem pretty miserable when you don’t feel right in your own skin.
The good news is that you are good enough and can learn to overcome your challenges.
As an integrative, trauma-informed psychotherapist, I’ll walk with you through the difficulty. We can search for the answers together online or face to face in Watford or North London.
It will take hard work and dedication to raise your self-awareness and own your truth but the opportunity to fully embrace life is absolutely worth it – I hope to be a part of your journey.
I provide trauma-focussed psychotherapy for adults
Let Me Get Personal
I struggled with low self-esteem for a long time.Despite being confident, articulate and ‘doing well’ (at least according to others), I found it incredibly difficult to maintain relationships. I was never satisfied with any aspect of my life and always on edge – convinced that I would be ‘found out’ and people would realise that I was worthless. It was easier to be distant and not be seen.
Life events can force us to step back and reflect on who we are and why/how we feel and behave in the ways that we do. The illness (and subsequent loss) of a loved one made me decide to raise my self-awareness and try to answer the questions that were coming up time and again. I wanted to be comfortable in my own skin and offer something worthwhile to the world.
Reading about spirituality, psychology, philosophy and the obligatory self-help books have all shaped my understanding so far, but I continue to learn.
Through my own experience and training I have come to appreciate the importance of family histories in shaping who we are and how we experience life. Abuse and neglect of various kinds can happen in even the most well-intentioned families and leave lasting effects on the mind, body and spirit.
I serve to help others recognise, understand and heal from their personal trauma.
Qualifications and Further Training
Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy (Level 7) from the University of East London (UEL)
CPCAB Award in Counselling Skills
CPCAB Award in Introduction to Counselling
BSc (Hons) Human Biology
Working with Complex Trauma (Stage 1)
Working with Complex Trauma (stage 2)
Experienced in the mental health sector (childhood trauma)
Mental Health First Aider (MHFA)
As a part of my commitment to ethical practice, I undertake at least 30 hours of Continuous Professional Development (CPD) activity every year (courses, reading, seminars)
3+ years’ experience in the mental health sector (charity supporting survivors’ of childhood abuse and neglect)
Work with adolescents, young adults and families who have been affected by various forms of abuse and neglect (school, fostering agency and NHS contracted agency)
Mentored adolescents in school setting
Written and/or facilitated training on various topics including: nurturing child mental health, emotional abuse and stress responses
I work with the lasting effects of family related problems – often referred to as complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (c-PTSD), which can affect how people view themselves and relate to others. The problems and effects include: